How to Be a Gentleman: The Definitive Guide

Why I wrote this guide?

Let’s be honest…

Not every man is a gentleman these days.


Because, every man is not respectful, confident, stylish and classy, in a single word –“well-born”.

Being a gentleman is not a genetic trait or something that you get from your parents. It’s a lifestyle!

So, I wrote this guide to help become a gentleman that is well-respected and honored. This guide book is full of actionable resources to become a modern gentleman.

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Who This Guide Is For?

If you’ve ever thought – “How is it like to be a gentleman like The Great Gatsby, or Professor Layton, or Kingsman?” Then, this guide is for you.

Using this guide, you will learn basics of being a gentleman, how he behaves around others, dresses, communicates, maintain relationships, dines, and what makes him different than other men out there.

There are dozens and dozens of things that you can sit down and do right now to make your life more respectful and classy.

Each chapter contains several links to hand-picked blog posts that improve your overall behavior, style, etiquette and everything that makes a man classy.

This is going to be amazing.

The Modern Gentleman Today: How the Game Has Evolved

Confusion about the words “gentleman” and “lady” is also evident, as they are not addressed or referred properly these days.

For our ancestors, “gentle” meant “well-born, belonging to a family of position”. The English word derives from the Latin “gentilis”, meaning “race” or “family”.

According to Robert Edward Lee’s definition , “the manner in which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is a test of a true gentleman.”

British members were called gentleman right from their birth, but birth alone cannot make a man a gentleman. New growing elites attempted to designate as gentlemen as a natural consequence of their growing wealth and influence.

In its best use, in modern usage, gentleman involves a certain superior standard of conduct, due to the quote – “that self-respect and intellectual refinement which manifest themselves in unrestrained yet delicate manners.”

In simple words, being a gentleman means treating others, especially women, in a respectful manner and not taking advantage or pushing others into doing things he chooses not to do.

With that said, I would like to introduce you to…

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The Ultimate List of the

Web’s Best Gentleman Resources


The Classy Gentleman Fundamentals

If you’re new to this whole gentlemanly concept – or looking to brush up on the basic meaning – the resources below will help you to get started with the concept.

This brings us to the question – where did the word gentleman come from?

The word comes from the Old French “gentilhomme” meaning “well-born man, a man of good family or birth,”. Hence, the word means “well born man”.

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How to Communicate Like a Gentleman

A gentleman is a master at communicating with others. He knows when to say, what to say and how to say.

You can look classy and act classy but if you say something “out of the line”,  you will totally screw the pooch.

There are some things you should say, some things you must avoid and basic rules of engagement in terms of communication like a gentleman.

Here are some posts that talk about communication tips.

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How to Act & Behave Like a Gentleman | Etiquette and Manners

“To feel you need to act first.”

There are some things that your parents should have taught and you have followed them. Manners. The way of behaving towards others.

Manners like:

  • Open the doors, carry stuff, etc., when you’re with a woman or senior, whether it’s your sister, mother, father, daughter, girlfriend, grandfather or grandmother.
  • Stop obsessively checking out your phone.
  • Don’t eat like a junkie.
  • Follow the dress code according to the place.
  • Wait for your turn.
  • Try to avoid picking up the phone while in a conversation.

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How to Maintain Relationships Like a Gentleman

Relationships are an important part of a man’s life, where communication is the key to a healthy relationship.

A gentleman knows how to maintain freshness in his relationships. He is a passionate lover and knows how to seduce a woman. At the same time, he knows that his vision is as much important as his relationship with his woman.

A gentleman also understands others’ situation, instead of trying to hurt them back. He is there to help his close friends and family, whenever they need him. He is present whenever someone is suffering or celebrating.

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How to Eat & Drink Like a Gentleman

So, you are invited, a gathering, there are some well-dressed gentlemen. As the time passes, dinner time comes up.

Now, what do you see? You see some of those well-dressed gentlemen eating like animals. Idiots.

There is some dining and eating etiquette to consider. If you’re also one of them or you haven’t figured out how to eat like a gentleman, here are some resources. 

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How to Dress Like a Gentleman

While talking about a gentleman, his dressing style always comes to mind. A gentleman always dresses appropriately when going out (even when you’re going to buy milk).

The “appropriate” outfit will depend upon the specific place you are visiting. As the establishment elevates, so should your outfit. If you’re going to a nice place, then avoid:

  • T-shirts
  • Tank tops
  • Flip flops
  • Sneakers and Sport Shoes
  • Jeans

Every guy needs a well-tailored suit in his wardrobe. Putting on a great suit is like wearing confidence. Have one.

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How to Attend a Gathering Like a Gentleman

Everybody gets invitations to parties, events, gatherings and functions. But, how to attend one of these like a gentleman?

This includes the ways he dresses, communicates, prepare, and the way he leaves the place.

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How to Impress Everyone Like a Gentleman

Just 4 seconds!

All it takes for a person to judge the kind of person you are. And those assumptions are mostly based on your overall looks and appearance.

The impression can be judged on two kinds of characteristics – either genetically or non-genetically.

Non-genetic includes your outfit, hygiene and your mood, which can be improved. Genetic characteristics are the ones which you can’t do anything about. Some people don’t like Blacks, disabled-people, Asians, etc.

The good news is that you can learn how to make an incredible first impression like a gentleman.

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Gentlemanly Essentials (BONUS)

Congratulations, gentleman!

I’m so happy that you’ve reached here and you must have learned so many things about a gentleman.

To take this to another level, I present you a BONUS chapter in an easy-to-use PDF version.

It includes those essential things that are followed by gentlemen every day (in a summarized way).

Download a FREE PDF Version of this Gentleman Guide

Also contains a BONUS chapter not found in this guide.

How to Be a Gentleman: The Definitive Guide was last modified: March 9th, 2017 by Akshay Dhiman